My Afflation

I need to get this off my chest before I forget. Forgive me, it's a little stream of consciousness as I let my thoughts wander from one tangent to another I've been thinking a lot about the concept of love lately. We blame Love for all sorts of stupidity. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a I will admit, I have done some stupid things in the name of love. I'm considering doing another. Because love is forgiving, I have chosen to turn a blind eye to things that are hurtful to me. Because love is long-suffering and sacrificial, I have sacrificed myself -- who I am. Because it does not envy, I swallow my jealousy and pride and consider courses of action ...

Image by -Chad Johnson via Flickr And I didn’t even know it. Back on Feb 3 I wrote about how hard it is for me to communicate . On Feb. 6 JPD and I broke up my brand new relationship ended, largely due to … * drumroll please *… my lack of ability to communicate important information in a timely manner. That, and my delivery positively sucked. Sweaty monkey-balls. I swear it was the worst delivery ever. Lesson learned. The hard way. I guess I should have expanded the chit-chat to some of the more serious things I needed to talk about. C’est la vie . NEXT! I’m not trying to be flippant. I’ve had two weeks to stew and reflect and play the “what if” game and get analyzed by my friends. And I have accepted the idiocy of what I did and how I handled it. I tried to make amends, and I’m learning, very slowly, that sometimes that’s all I can do. Is try. I can’t make it right if I’m not allowed to. And Lord, how I want to make it right. I’m stubborn. But I’m also a fast-learner...

We all know that everyone has a different take on this question. I think generally the answer is no. I’m finding out for myself that the answer might be yes. For clarification, what’s a rebound? And I’m not talking basketball here. I wish I was. Divorce Support defines a rebound as: A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship." -- About.com: Divorce Support I have had more than my share of rebounds recently (by the above definition). I've had a year-long break from a "long lasting relationship" and suddenly find myself willing to date again. Even a few days ago this was not the case, so...

Today at work I declared it "Stupid Man Week" and passed out kisses to those of us who needed it. All of the women around me (except the one that is now engaged) have been having stupid men problems. One guy had everyone in one friend's family thinking he was about to propose, instead he dumps her and finds someone else to sleep with the same night. This friend is taking her hurt and anger out on everyone else. Not good, but we're working on it. Another lied to his wife (lie by omission) and then wonders why she got mad because his omission screwed up their monthly budget and put a huge strain on relations with extended family, and he fights dirty. And I won't go into mine. He wasn't stupid or hurtful this week, but I am still recovering from a blow a few weeks ago. And then there is the smart husband :) He used to be stupid when it came to treating his wife as a treasure, but she fills him in on our problems and in the last two weeks he's been a doll. A...